Turn your painful thoughts about a difficult relationship in your life--past or current--[mother/partner/adult child/friend/co-worker]
into genuine inner peace...
without needing them to change!
The framework to feel okay with things as they are—without people pleasing, pretending you're not hurt, or cutting them out of your life
This 3-hour workshop will help you:
Stop replaying the same painful conversation in your head for the hundredth time (finally reclaiming the mental energy you've been wasting on what they said or didn't say).
Feel actual peace with them exactly as they are—even if they never apologize, change, or "get it" (because your freedom can't depend on their transformation).
Walk away with a simple inquiry process you can use in real-time when emotions run high (so you're not stuck waiting until your next therapy session to find relief).
Stay genuinely calm the next time they do that thing that always triggers you (no more feeling like all your meditation practice flies out the window when they text).
Who is this workshop for?
The accomplished person who's done years of inner work — You meditate, you journal, you've read all the books and done therapy. You know you shouldn't let your mother/ex/adult child/boss get to you like this. You want genuine peace that actually shows up when it matters most, not just on your meditation cushion
The helping professional who can hold space for everyone except yourself — You're a therapist, nurse, educator, or coach who guides others through their emotional landscapes with wisdom and compassion. But when it comes to your own difficult relationships? You're exhausted from overanalyzing, setting boundaries that don't stick, and secretly wondering why this person still has so much power over your peace of mind. You want to practice what you preach—and actually feel free.
The midlifer caught between aging parents, adult children and grandchildren — You're in the sandwich generation, trying to be everything to everyone while your own emotional reserves run dry. You're tired of the guilt, the resentment, the mental rehearsals of conversations that never go well. You don't want to cut anyone off or become cold—you want to genuinely be okay with them exactly as they are, so you can show up without the constant drain.
The spiritual seeker who's hit the limits of positive thinking — You've tried gratitude practices, and "choosing love." You understand oneness and non-attachment intellectually. But when that person triggers you, it all feels like spiritual bypassing. You're done pretending you're fine when you're not. You want a real path to peace that doesn't require you to be perfect, enlightened, or emotionally numb first.
I could NOT stop thinking my stressful thoughts! But then.....
I had a co-worker who talked about me behind my back and complained to our boss that I wasn't pulling my weight. Many nights, I'd wake up at 3am, building my case, rehearsing my defense, absolutely certain she was wrong and unfair.
I was a therapist, for God's sake—I was supposed to be above this kind of thing. But I wasn't.
Then I started doing the work of self-inquiry and questioning my own thoughts: She shouldn't talk about me. She should see how hard I work. She's being unfair.
When I got honest about my stressful beliefs instead of defending them, something unexpected happened—I could finally hear what she'd actually been trying to tell me. We had a real conversation face to face, and it felt very uncomfortable, but so authentic and honest.
I changed some things. She softened. I softened.
A year later when I left that job, this same woman who had driven me crazy was following me down the hall calling out "Fairy dust! Fairy dust!" to send me off with love.
That's what you'll learn in this workshop: how to question the thoughts that keep you stuck in resentment, so you can show up clear enough to hear what's really happening—and find peace (and sometimes even connection) you never thought possible.
What you'll get:
✓ The 3-Hour Live Relationships Workshop (Feb 18th)
Join us live on Zoom for a deep-dive inquiry session where you'll learn the exact 4-question framework to dissolve relationship pain at its source. You'll watch real-time demonstrations, practice the questions with your own painful thoughts, and leave with a repeatable process you can use anytime you're triggered. This isn't theory—you'll work on your actual relationship struggles and experience relief in real-time.
($147 value)
✓ One Year Access to the Workshop Recording
Life happens. Can't make it live? Need to revisit the process when you're stuck? You'll have a full year to watch (and re-watch) the complete workshop recording whenever you need it. Many people find that reviewing the demonstrations months later—when they're in the middle of a new relationship challenge—reveals insights they missed the first time and reminds them exactly how to find their way back to peace.
($97 value)
✓ Relationship Inquiry Participant's Pack
You'll get all the worksheets you need to do this process on your own: the complete 4-question framework, fill-in-the-blank worksheets for your most triggering thoughts, and step-by-step examples. Print them out and keep them handy for those 3am wake-ups when your mind won't stop. This becomes your go-to tool for questioning your way to peace—without needing anyone there to guide you through it.
($17 value)
✓ Personal Attention from Grace During the Live Workshop (If You Want It)
This isn't a webinar where you sit and watch passively. If you want to work on your specific relationship struggle live—with Grace guiding you through the inquiry process in real-time—you can. There's no pressure to speak up, but if you do, you'll get direct support to question the exact thoughts that are keeping you stuck. Plus, watching others work on their relationships often illuminates your own patterns in surprising ways.
($197 value)
This workshop is $65
"If I'm at peace with their behavior, doesn't that mean I'm saying it was OK?"
This is the fear that keeps so many good people stuck in resentment—the belief that your anger is somehow protecting you or others, that if you found peace with them as they are, you'd become a doormat.
But here's the paradigm shift: inner peace doesn't mean you become passive, permissionless, or indifferent.
It means you finally have the clarity to act wisely instead of reacting from hurt. When you're not tangled up in the story of how wrong they are, you can actually see what's true and respond from groundedness instead of defense.
Peace isn't weakness. It's the foundation for real wisdom. And sometimes, that wisdom tells you to walk away—but you do it freely, not because you're enslaved to your resentment.
Thirteen years of resentment melted in two weeks
One of my clients, Caroline, hadn't spoken to her sister in thirteen years after a painful falling-out.
She came to our work convinced that reconciliation was impossible—her sister was "too stubborn," "never apologized," and "didn't deserve her forgiveness."
Then I asked her to question just one thought: "My sister should have apologized by now."
As she sat with that question—really sat with it—her face changed. "If I believed she should apologize... of course I'm suffering. I'm arguing with reality. She hasn't apologized. That's just what's true."
Within the inquiry, Sarah saw that her demand for an apology had become the prison keeping her stuck, not her sister's behavior. Two weeks later, her sister called her. (Mind blown). There wasn't an immediate apology...but a dam of silence had broken.
That's the power of questioning your thoughts instead of believing them—and it's exactly what you'll learn to do in this workshop. Join us February 18th and discover how to find peace with one relationship you thought was impossible.
Meet your leader
Hi, I'm Grace Bell — and I used to lose my temper with my 11-year-old daughter before she grew up (she's almost 30 now). This was frequent. This is how it was when I bumped into Byron Katie, who became a mentor of mine in the early 2000s, and what honest self-inquiry did to change me within.
I was a licensed therapist. I'd spent years studying human behavior, helping other people navigate their relationships with wisdom and compassion.
And yet there I was, furious--even yelling--at my kid over her attitude or however she pushed my buttons that day. The shame was crushing. I'm supposed to know better. I helped other people with this. What's wrong with me?
I kept going deeper with self-inquiry, which as I said was relatively new to me, and I discovered something quite amazing in a really profound way: I wasn't losing my temper because of what my daughter did. I was losing my temper because of what I thought about what she did, because of what I thought it meant when she did it.
Thoughts like "she should listen to me" and "she's being disrespectful" and "I'm failing as a mother" and "she doesn't care about me". And then..."daughters should love their mothers--and agree with their mothers" (and vice versa). And "if she disagrees with me, it means we aren't close".
When I learned to question those thoughts at a very deep level instead of believing them automatically, the anger or fear faded. Not because I became a perfect parent or because she became a perfect kid—but because I stopped arguing with reality.
That simple shift—from believing my stressful thoughts to questioning them—gave me back my peace. And my relationship with my daughter.
Now I share with others how to do the same thing. In this workshop, you'll learn the exact inquiry process that freed me from the mental torture of difficult relationships—so you can find your own peace, regardless of what they do or don't do.
You've been carrying this relationship pain long enough.
You've tried everything else—therapy, boundaries, affirmations, hoping they'll finally change. You've worked so hard on yourself, and yet that person still has the power to throw you off your center. Enough.
It's time to learn the inquiry process that actually dissolves relationship suffering at its source.
Join me on February 18th for the Relationships Workshop. Bring your most painful thought about your most difficult person. I'll show you exactly how to question it—and how to find genuine peace whether they ever change or not.
This is your invitation to stop arguing with reality and start living free.
When you walk away from this workshop, you won't just understand the concept of peace—you'll have felt it in your body, with your actual relationship, in real-time. And you'll know exactly how to find your way back to it whenever you need to.
Live Workshop: How to Stop Obsessing Over One Difficult Relationship (And Find Lasting Peace) Without Them Having to Change, Apologize, or Even Know You're Upset
FEBRUARY 18, 2026
9am-Noon Pacific Time/ Noon-3pm Eastern Time
5pm-8pm London/ 6pm-9pm Paris
The sustainable tuition for this half-day workshop is $65. However, it is possible for those in need to drop the tuition on a sliding scale from $37-$65. This is honor system pay-from-the-heart. When you register, you'll be added to the workshop list.